Parenting is one of hardest things in the world. It is a roller coaster of ups and downs. It is draining and full of worry and doubt. You have victories and so many defeats every single day and it takes a toll, physically and mentally.
I’m sharing with you some of the hardest things of parenting I go through. The first one is one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with and I will be working on for years to come. It’s the loss of identity. I, and lots of other mums, struggle between being a mum and being my own person. Having to balance being the mum, partner and friend while still doing the things you love and being the person you want to be can be so overwhelming at times. It can feel like an impossible task to juggle everything and to find time to focus on yourself as well.
Then comes the guilt. Before your babes are born you have a vision of what kind of mum we wanted to be and of course it’s never picture perfect. Those blissful days of reading, baking and colouring together turned out to be endless hours of picking up toys, breaking up fights and finding those gross old sandwiches stuffed under the couch.
Then there is all the mess and the noise. Oh my gosh, the noise. No one prepares you for hearing “mum” repeated 4000 times a day. No one trains you how to remain calm and not lose your head when they ask for the fifth cup of water before bed. You never knew that anyone could have the constant need for attention that those beautiful little devils do.
But the hardest thing in the world is knowing that one day the noise and the mess will disappear. The house will be clean and quiet. You won’t be running around the house with random clothes in your hands. they won’t be pulling on your clothes and won’t need kisses goodnight. They won’t wake you in the middle of the night for cuddles. That’s the hardest part of parenting, losing everything that makes you crazy.
What’s your biggest struggle as a parent? And how do you cope with it.